I understand that it is impermissible to bow down or prostrate, but here it’s our tradition to prostrate in greeting our elders. I was able to explain to my father concerning the prohibition but my uncle i.e. his eldest brother always insist that I squat or prostrate in respect of him. Refusing him I would have to avoid him. What may I do to handle this situation?
The Hadith of Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam prohibits us from lowering ourselves before any human being, in fact the mere resemblance of Sajdah/prostration before a human being should also be avoided. Hadrat Anas Radiallahu Anhu narrates that a man said, “O Rasul of Allah, a man from amongst us meets his brother or friend, should he lower himself for him?” Rasulullah replied, “NO!.” (Mishkaat pg.401)
In your particular scenario, you should explain to your uncle that this is the Command of Allah and His Rasul Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam, and there is no compromise in these commands. If he refuses to accept, which leaves you with no other alternative but avoiding him, then you will have to avoid him on the basis of Shari’ah and Deen.
Checked and Approved By:
Mufti Muhammed Saeed Motara Saheb D.B.
Fataawa Mahmoodiyya pg.217 vol.28 (Meerut)