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Fantasizing About Another Woman During Relations With One’s Spouse

Question

Can I imagine another women while having intercourse with my wife? This is the only way I feel arousal.

Answer

It is Haraam (strictly prohibited) to imagine other women whilst having relations with one’s spouse, and it is tantamount to Zina (adultery) with the heart and mind. 

One should make sincere Tauba (repentance) from doing such actions and make Dua that Allah beautifies his spouse for him. Coupled with this, one should ensure he protects his gaze as this is the main cause of losing love for one’s spouse and desiring other women. 

Checked and Approved By:

Mufti Muhammed Saeed Motara Saheb D.B.

References

الثَّالِثُ: ذَكَرَ بَعْضُ الشَّافِعِيَّةِ أَنَّهُ كَمَا يَحْرُمُ النَّظَرُ لِمَا لَا يَحِلُّ يَحْرُمُ التَّفَكُّرُ فِيهِ لِقَوْلِهِ تَعَالَى – {وَلا تَتَمَنَّوْا مَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ} [النساء: 32]- فَمَنَعَ مِنْ التَّمَنِّي كَمَا مَنَعَ مِنْ النَّظَرِ، وَذَكَرَ الْعَلَّامَةُ ابْنُ حَجَرٍ فِي التُّحْفَةِ أَنَّهُ لَيْسَ مِنْهُ مَا لَوْ وَطِئَ حَلِيلَتَهُ مُتَفَكِّرًا فِي مَحَاسِنِ أَجْنَبِيَّةٍ حَتَّى خُيِّلَ إلَيْهِ أَنَّهُ يَطَؤُهَا، وَنَقَلَ عَنْ جَمَاعَةٍ مِنْهُمْ الْجَلَالُ السُّيُوطِيّ وَالتَّقِيُّ السُّبْكِيُّ أَنَّهُ يَحِلُّ لِحَدِيثِ «إنَّ اللَّهَ تَجَاوَزَ لِأُمَّتِي مَا حَدَّثَتْ بِهِ أَنْفُسَهَا» وَلَا يَلْزَمُ مِنْ تَخَيُّلِهِ ذَلِكَ عَزْمُهُ عَلَى الزِّنَا بِهَا، حَتَّى يَأْثَمَ إذَا صَمَّمَ عَلَى ذَلِكَ لَوْ ظَفِرَ بِهَا، وَإِنَّمَا اللَّازِمُ فَرْضُ مَوْطُوءَتِهِ تِلْكَ الْحَسْنَاءَ، وَقِيلَ يَنْبَغِي كَرَاهَةُ ذَلِكَ وَرُدَّ بِأَنَّ الْكَرَاهَةَ لَا بُدَّ لَهَا مِنْ دَلِيلٍ وَقَالَ ابْنُ الْحَاجِّ الْمَالِكِيِّ: إنَّهُ يَحْرُمُ لِأَنَّهُ نَوْعٌ مِنْ الزِّنَا كَمَا قَالَ عُلَمَاؤُنَا فِيمَنْ أَخَذَ كُوزًا يَشْرَبُ مِنْهُ، فَتَصَوَّرَ بَيْنَ عَيْنَيْهِ أَنَّهُ خَمْرٌ فَشَرِبَهُ أَنَّ ذَلِكَ الْمَاءَ يَصِيرُ حَرَامًا عَلَيْهِ اهـ وَرُدَّ بِأَنَّهُ فِي غَايَةِ الْبَعْدِ وَلَا دَلِيلَ عَلَيْهِ اهـ مُلَخَّصًا وَلَمْ أَرَ مَنْ تَعَرَّضَ لِلْمَسْأَلَةِ عِنْدَنَا وَإِنَّمَا قَالَ فِي الدُّرَرِ: إذَا شَرِبَ الْمَاءَ وَغَيْرَهُ مِنْ الْمُبَاحَاتِ بِلَهْوٍ وَطَرَبٍ عَلَى هَيْئَةِ الْفَسَقَةِ حَرُمَ اهـ وَالْأَقْرَبُ لِقَوَاعِد مَذْهَبِنَا عَدَمُ الْحِلِّ، لِأَنَّ تَصَوُّرَ تِلْكَ الْأَجْنَبِيَّةِ بَيْنَ يَدَيْهِ يَطَؤُهَا فِيهِ تَصْوِيرُ مُبَاشَرَةِ الْمَعْصِيَةِ عَلَى هَيْئَتِهَا، فَهُوَ نَظِيرُ مَسْأَلَةِ الشُّرْبِ ثُمَّ رَأَيْت صَاحِبَ تَبْيِينِ الْمَحَارِمِ مِنْ عُلَمَائِنَا نَقَلَ عِبَارَةَ ابْنِ الْحَاجِّ الْمَالِكِيِّ، وَأَقَرَّهَا وَفِي آخِرِهَا حَدِيثٌ عَنْهُ – صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ – «إذَا شَرِبَ الْعَبْدُ الْمَاءَ عَلَى شَبَهِ الْمُسْكِرِ كَانَ ذَلِكَ عَلَيْهِ حَرَامًا» اهـ. (رد المحتار على الدر المختار ج6 ص372)

كذا في فتاوٰی محمودیہ ج18 ص633

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